Also, in a funny way, if you have been happily married there are no unresolved areas, nothing to prove to yourself after the other dies.
And cooking is about balance and harmony.
And, in a funny way, each death is different and you mourn each death differently and each death brings back the death you mourned earlier and you get into a bit of a pile-up.
Anyway, what makes people look youthful is the quality of their skin and I don't think you can change that.
At some stages of your life you will deal with things and at others you are overwhelmed with misery and anxiety.
But if you know that something has been really vicious, you don't read it, you don't let it into your head. What's damaging is when sentences go through your head and you burn with the injustice of it.
But things feel different on the inside, and I think it's different, when someone dies over a long time, from how one would respond to a sudden death.
Cooking is actually quite aggressive and controlling and sometimes, yes, there is an element of force-feeding going on.
Emotion is messy, contradictory... and true.
Gordon Ramsay makes me laugh because he knows that I'm not a chef.
I always wanted to be called Caroline. Carolines were always very nice in books.
I am not sure about facelifts because I wouldn't want to be someone who just looks like she's had a facelift.
I can understand why those primitive desert people think a camera steals their soul. It is unnatural to see yourself from the outside.
I don't believe in low-fat cooking.
I don't like conflict.
I have to remind myself that I'm not going to be sent away with no food ever again if I don't finish everything on my plate.
I know the crew so well, so I forget I'm being filmed. It's like cooking with a friend in the kitchen - you're talking, as you do, and maybe you're telling her about this wonderful way to prepare lamb chops - it's more natural, more honest.
I need to be frightened of things. I hate it, but I must need it, because it's what I do.
I never have plans for the future as you never know how things will turn out.
I never taste the wine first in restaurants, I just ask the waiter to pour.
I think maybe when you live with someone who is really very ill for a long time, it somehow gives you more of a greedy appetite for life and maybe, yes, you are less measured in your behaviour than you would otherwise be.
I was a quiet teenager, introverted, full of angst.
I wasn't good with authority, went to lots of schools, didn't like the fact that there was no autonomy.
I'm not someone who's endlessly patient and wonderful.
I've always liked to have a very mixed life and I'm quite busy in the near future.
In England and America people tend to graze all day long, but I think it's such a waste to be constantly picking at food because you then can't enjoy a proper full meal when the time comes.
In fact I am quite snappy and irritable, and I don't know if I'd like to make myself worse in that respect.
It sounds like something on a very trite T-shirt, but life is what happens.
It's also quite early on in the relationship to start having babies but obviously because of my age, I can't just say I'll do it in three years' time.
It's hard for me to think that things will go smoothly, but I am aware that it's not all about me and what I have lost.
It's like being asked to understand how other people see you, and that is something you don't ever want to know.
On the whole, I prefer Christmas as an adult than I did as a child.
People who have fabulous childhoods have this sense that nothing is ever going to be that good again. With me, I have the sense that nothing is going to be that bad.
Sometimes my breath is taken away by what people ask, but there's no point being naive, and I'm quite a frank person.
'Statistically, people who have been happily married and then widowed tend to remarry.
The modern world is personal; people want to know intimate things.
Then again, they're not scripted and I feel it's virtually impossible to be anything but yourself when you're in front of the cameras and cooking so there is a measure of truth in what you see.
There is a kind of euphoria of grief, a degree of madness.
There is a vast difference between how things seem from the outside and how they feel on the inside.
There is something wrong about being photographed that has nothing to do with vanity.
They believe in marriage, which is great, but it's also because of their egotism. Children see everything according to how it impinges on them.
You don't go around grieving all the time, but the grief is still there and always will be.
You get to the stage when your children don't wake you up at six in the morning and can get on with stuff themselves.
You need a balance in life between dealing with what's going on inside and not being so absorbed in yourself that it takes over.
Nigella married a journalist named John Diamond, whom she met in 1986 when they were both writing for The Sunday Times.
In 1986 she became deputy literary editor of the Sunday Times after writing a restaurant column for the Spectator.
She is Jewish.
She has written five books: How to Eat, Feast, Forever Summer, Nigella Bites and How to Be a Domestic Goddess.
Her favourite musical group is Sheffield group Hotsnack.
Sister-in-law of Lord Saatchi.
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